When I heard the collaboration between Jolin Tsai and Mayday in “The Rose Boy” again, Ah also remembered the past and still cannot let go.It is said that “giving roses to others has a lingering fragrance in their hands”, but the “roses” that those people give to teenagers are full of scars and a crippled heart after suffering.It was an era when “Korean pop male stars” and “female men” were not yet popular in China, and it was widely believed that boys should be resolute.If you behave like a girl, you will be regarded as an alien, and Ah is also seen by others as the so-called “alien.”.
When I was a child, Ah also had beautiful features, white skin, shy personality, and didn’t like talking to others.
He doesn’t like sports, mountain climbing, martial arts stars, and other things that ordinary boys like.
“Every time my neighbors saw Aye’s mother, they worried and said, ‘Your son is becoming more and more like a girl. When he grows up, it’s okay. Hurry to correct him while he’s young.'”
Speaking of this, Aye’s mother was very distressed. She once reported Taekwondo to her son, but within two weeks of learning it, Aye clamoured not to go.
After that, she enrolled him in interest classes such as basketball, calligraphy, and football, with the aim of enabling his son to gain more exposure to boys’ things, but all failed. Later, she discovered that his son likes to play house games or dolls with girls.
At that time, Aye was young, and after correcting her repeatedly, she didn’t care much because she thought her son would change as he grew up.
But what my mother didn’t know was that the boys in the neighborhood were particularly ostracized by Aye and regarded playing with him as a shame.
Whenever I encounter Aye on the road, I deliberately walk around him in a big circle, as if seeing something dirty, or a group of people come up to him and start cajoling, saying “sissy.”.
When Aye was a junior high school student, his father’s business failed and he couldn’t continue to provide him with education in the city.
So before deciding to make a comeback, he sent his son back to his hometown to study.
But it was just such a gift that it became the beginning of Aye’s nightmare.
At the age of thirteen or four, Aye, who is already a half year old boy, is even taller and grows up slowly. His face is white and his lips are red, showing a slight childishness. He speaks in a gentle and gentle voice, which is extremely pleasant to hear.
As soon as I entered the new school, I was selected by the teacher to join the choir and became one of the few male students in the group.
Aye’s voice is gentle and magnetic, especially suitable for harmony. It is a rare tone among male voices, and music teachers place great importance on him.
However, boys of the same age do not think so. In a group of thick and heavy male voices, Ah Yi is a complete alien.
As soon as class was over, they would surround Ah Yi and tease and laugh at him.
“If Ah Yi ran to the bathroom, they would whistle and shout at the door, ‘You’re in the wrong place. The women’s room next door is where you should stay.'”
Then there was a group of people laughing loudly.
Aye always had to wait until the bell rang for class before coming out of the bathroom and rushing back to the classroom.
In addition, they also threatened A Yi to help them with their homework, or else they would take off his pants to distinguish between a man and a woman. A Yi was also humiliated, but the other party was in large numbers, and their closest parents were not around, forcing them to yield, but this was the beginning of all unreasonable conditions.
Ayi has to copy five copies of homework every day after he finishes his homework at school and goes home. The answers cannot be the same, or he will be found by the teacher.
Writing homework alone is not enough to satisfy them, and Ah also has a fixed allowance of 200 yuan per month.
Somehow after being known by them, as long as they had no money, they intimidated Aye with homework and asked him to buy them snacks or drinks. They nicknamed it a treat, but they shamelessly accepted everything.
But what they didn’t know was that the 200 yuan was Aye’s monthly lunch fee.
Since they knew it, he could only buy one or two yuan of Mantou to satisfy his hunger at noon every day. Sometimes he needed to run in physical education class, and he ran the whole journey with a burning hunger
Aye’s grades are considered average in the class, but his bully is a well-known class bully at the school.
There was a midterm exam where one of them, A Sheng, and A also shared the same exam venue.
During the exam, A Sheng kept signaling to A Yi to show him the answer, but A Yi ignored it.
Therefore, A Sheng took advantage of the invigilator’s inattention and directly grabbed A Yi’s test paper, copying it violently.
As soon as the invigilator saw that there was no test paper on Ah Yi’s desk, he understood what was going on. He gave Ah Sheng a hard lecture and criticized him throughout the school.
For a moment, A Sheng became a negative teaching material for the school, but he did not repent and instead developed a mentality of revenge.
One day after school, Ah Yih went home after finishing his homework as usual. As he was passing a quiet intersection and turning, a dozen people suddenly rushed out to surround him tightly.
With the command of the leader, each person slapped him hard, and Aye’s face suddenly turned blue and swollen, which could not satisfy them. Several of them smashed Aye’s bicycle into pieces with iron rods, and then sank directly into the pond.
It was Aye’s beloved bicycle and a birthday gift from his father. It was a token of his yearning for his parents, but they destroyed it.
A long period of humiliation and unbearable anger reigned in Aye, and he struggled to fight back, only to receive a dozen feet of repeated kicks.
The whole process lasted for over half an hour, which was the darkest moment of Aye’s life.
Occasionally, when someone passes by, they shake their heads and leave. No one comes to stop their atrocities, and A Sheng is the initiator and commander of all this.
On that day, Aye limped home with scars. When her grandparents saw this scene, anger and regret lingered in their hearts.
“At first, when Ah Yi was bullied by Ah Sheng and them, he once told his grandparents, but what he received was, ‘Ah Yi, you need to relax, it’s okay for boys to make small decisions.'”
Occasionally, he would call his parents to complain, but before he finished speaking, a very impatient voice came from the other end of the phone, saying, “Alright, Aye, I’m busy with my work and don’t want to hear what you’re saying. You haven’t really thought about whether you’ve done something wrong or why others are always targeting you.”
Even close relatives believe that they are wrong, perhaps it is really their own fault, but no one has told him exactly where they are wrong.
Therefore, in countless subsequent bullying, he could only endure and endure in silence, and did not know who to talk to
However, this bullying incident was not trivial. After learning the causes and consequences from Aye, my grandparents immediately called their son and daughter-in-law and took Aye to the school to find the principal the next morning
For a while, the fact that Aye had been subjected to campus bullying for a long time spread throughout the entire campus, and grandparents also realized that the small things they once thought were enough to destroy a teenager.
A also transferred to school, and he was taken back by his parents. In addition to apologizing, those who bullied him were also suspended from school for a month.
But soon after Aye left, those people dropped out of school.
After that, Aye never saw them again. Occasionally, when he returned to his hometown, he learned about their recent situation from his grandparents and became silent.
For Aye, the two years he suffered from campus violence in his hometown have become his indelible pain.
For the next four years, he had been living in a world of polarization between pain and self-healing, but fortunately, his parents had been with him all the time, especially in his third year of high school, when they temporarily put aside their work to accompany him throughout the exam.
In his new school, Aye made friends with a group of like-minded people. After learning about his encounter during a casual night chat, Aye gave him a warm hug.
They made an appointment: In the coming years, whenever it comes to Aye’s birthday, wherever they are, they will gather together to celebrate his birthday.
Until now, this agreement has been fulfilled every year.
A friend once told A Yi, “When I met you, your heart was already riddled with holes, but you were right. Why should you let the atrocities of those people prove that it was all your fault?”?
I once thought, “It’s too late to meet you, it’s too late to meet you, but teenagers have roses and stars, and there should also be oceans and distant places.”. As friends, we will always accompany you at every important moment in your life.
Jolin Tsai&Mayday’s “Young Rose,” whose song title derives from Ye Yongzhi, a Taiwanese boy who died from campus bullying due to his femininity, once brought this tragic story to the stage of a concert to warn the public to treat different people around him.
When Aye first heard this song, he was already a college student, and those who had harmed him in the past have blurred their faces with the passage of time, but the pain of hitting him with one punch and one foot at that time is still fresh in my memory.
The second time Aye listened to this song, it was now that he was 26 years old and working at the youth assistance center in his hometown, with the aim of helping more children who had suffered school violence like him out of their plight
“Those who have harmed Aye, some have married early and had children, some have been sentenced for breaking the law, and some have recognized Aye on the road many years later. They want to apologize for their misdeeds when they were young, but they don’t know how to speak up…”
But ah, like Aye, the rose boy never wanted a “sorry” sentence.
There is a transmigration of cause and effect in the world. May the bound rose youth in this world walk out of the abyss and greet the dawn; May there be no rose boy in this world
